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Clothing Business: So What?

Asker: since I was a little girl, I always wanted to be a designer. And all through my entire life, I’ve gone to design school for clothes.

Bashar: So you are living one of your dreams.

Bashar: Then, I started my own business. And years ago, when I started it, it just went through the roof. I had so much business, it was scary. Because we… we could hardly handle the amount of business that we had.

Bashar: All right. And so what did you do?

Asker: Well, we tried…

Bashar: Did you scale back?

Asker: No. We didn’t try to. We kept trying to grow with it.

Bashar: But now, why did you try to grow with it instead of simply growing?

Asker: Well, I think we… we were… I mean, to the best of my ability that at that time… yes. At that time. And now it’s like I try and I try… stop.

Bashar: Trying. Nothing is ever accomplished by trying. It is only accomplished by doing. Something by being a particular frequency, by living a particular way. Right? Do you have a picture in your head of your ideal scenario with you in it?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: How different is it from your scenario now?

Asker: Pretty different.

Bashar: All right. Imagine for a moment—whether your eyes are open or closed is up to you—imagine for a moment that scenario where you see yourself in that scenario. Do you see it? Mhm. All right. Now pay attention to that version of you closely. Do you see her doing things?

Asker: Well, it’s just a moment, but yes. Just a moment.

Bashar: Yes. All right. Well, stretch it out. See her going about her day in this ideal scenario. Okay. Whether it be actually at work, or at play, or at home. See her the way she would be behaving in that reality. Do you see her?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: Is she behaving differently than you behave on a day-to-day basis?

Asker: Yes. But the situations are different. Like in my vision…

Bashar: Don’t get ahead of the game. Okay. Do you see her behaving differently?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: Regardless of the circumstances, you need to behave as she does in all ways she would behave in any circumstance that occurred. You’re not being her. Her. She would behave as she chooses to behave regardless of how things look around her. Because what does she know that you don’t?

She knows that circumstances don’t matter. Only state of being does. Why? Because circumstances are an illusion. They’re neutral. They’re props. They don’t mean anything. They’re empty. Devoid of meaning. So no matter what happens to her, she’s still going to behave like the she she wants to be. She’s not going to take her behavioral cue from the circumstances around her. She’s going to allow the circumstances around her to take their cue from her. You follow along here? Uhhuh. Uh-huh.

So the reason you have the ability to visualize the ideal situation is so that you can use it like a mirror. So that you can mimic it. So that you can behave like her in all situations, regardless of what the circumstances are that surround you. When you start doing that, you will be the vibration of that being. And when you’re the vibration of that being, you will then be capable of seeing opportunities you can’t see because you’re not the vibration of those opportunities like she is. Anytime you are not the vibration of something, it’s invisible to you. So you will not see the doorways and the opportunities you could walk through or you could attract to yourself if you are not the vibration that she is being. Because she can see them, but you can’t, because you’re not being her. Make sense? Mhm. Do you think you can do that?

Asker: I’m afraid that when I walk away, you know, just… I’m just afraid that like when I get home and I try to do it, I’m going to have… it’s like I hear all this stuff and I know it, but you don’t believe it.

Asker: No, I do believe it. But it’s like I can’t… it’s like I can’t change into… I don’t know.

Bashar: Yes, you do. You said it yourself. You’re afraid. What are you afraid of?

Asker: I don’t know.

Bashar: Yes, you do. What are you afraid of? Let’s paint the scenario. Imagine it didn’t… you hear us before say, if you have a fear, let’s magnify it, let’s amplify it. What’s the worst thing that might happen if you, as you say, try—which I’m not recommending—but if you attempt to be like her, what’s the worst thing you fear might happen? Come. Come. Come.

Asker: I don’t… I don’t know. I… yes, you do. Well, the only thing I can think of is what happened the first time that I got so busy that I couldn’t handle it, and it scared me. Maybe. But I don’t know if that’s the answer. I don’t know if that’s right.

Bashar: All right. Let’s, for the moment, assume that it is. So let’s say you started to get busy again. Yes. Yes. All right. Let’s say so busy that you needed assistance. Yes. Yes. Yes. Is there some reason you couldn’t attract assistance?

Asker: No. I… no. I had them then.

Bashar: Why were you scared?

Asker: Well, no, I wasn’t. But um, like, okay. So when did you get scared? Obviously, at some point in this entire scenario, you became scared. Yeah. When was that?

Asker: Well, I um… don’t tell me you don’t know. No, I mean, I remember moments when we were so busy and I wouldn’t sleep through the night because I didn’t think we were going to ship product, and people were going to cancel these huge orders. And if they canceled… some of them were so big, if they canceled one order, it’d put me out of business.

Bashar: And you were afraid of that? Yeah. I believe you need to know and learn the sacred mantra. You want it?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: Yes. It’s two words. Are you ready?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: Repeat after me. Are you ready?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: Repeat after me: So what?

Asker: So what? Big deal. So I lose a deal. Big deal. I’ll get another. I’ll learn from it and rearrange things and attract what I need and get another. It’s not permanent. All right. I made a little mistake, but I learned. Isn’t that the point of mistakes? To go down roads to discover what doesn’t work so that you can discover what does.

The difficulty that you’ve created for yourself is in your negative reaction to certain scenarios. Right? Well, you have to not react negatively to those scenarios to get them to work for you. Because if you don’t put a positive meaning into even that kind of circumstance, you’re never going to get the positive effect from that circumstance. You’re only going to get the negative one based on the negative meaning you put into that thing happening. Make sense? Mhm.

So what you are now going to be practicing, I assume… tell me please… is the idea that no matter what happens, as you build your business, as you follow your excitement, no matter what happens, you are going to know—not guess, not wonder, not even believe—you’re going to know that what just happened, whatever it is, is going to serve you like never before. Okay. You have to know that. And thus, when you know that, you will behave like you know it. Okay. It won’t be, “Ooh, that happened. Ooh.” Look at the body language. “Oh no. Oh no.” Okay. You think this is the right vibration to find a solution? No. Do you understand? Yes. You need to be her. Okay. In all circumstances. No matter what.

Asker: Are you her? Is that who you prefer to be?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: Then that’s who you must behave like. No matter what. Because that’s what she would do. You understand? That’s what she would do. No matter what. Because that’s the kind of life she lives. Because that’s the kind of life she prefers to live. No matter what. And she knows the sacred mantra: “So what?” This happened. So what. All right. I’ve learned something. Let’s pick ourselves up and move forward. Okay. That’s the behavior. That’s the stance. That’s the body language. That’s the energy. Make sense? Mhm. Are you sure?

Asker: Yeah. All right. Okay. And I have another question. Yes. The glyphs. Those… the sacred circuits. Yeah. Yes. Okay. I’ve been staring at him, and it’s like, because I maybe because I’ve been so negative, I’m trying to get something to work. Is there… you sure? Try a lot. I know I do. I know I do.

Bashar: Do you not see how the very definition of what you’re saying includes the formula for defeat? No. Yes. I try. Which means you don’t really believe it’s going to work. You’re just trying it. Okay. You’re not gravitating to it. You’re not attracting yourself to it, knowing that it’s just a reflection. You’re trying to get that to work. It’s just a permission slip. All tools are permission slips. The tool only triggers the ability for you to give yourself permission to be who you are. The tool doesn’t do it for you. You have to attract yourself to whatever tool—if you need a tool at all—that is simply aligned with your belief system so that the tool will trigger you to allow yourself to give yourself permission to let it be. All right. To be who you know you would prefer to be. Okay. You can’t try to get the circuit to work for you. You just have to find that you work for it. You gravitate. It’s a relationship. You work together. You work with it. You understand? Mhm. But if you don’t find that, in that sense, you are attracted to it, then attract what does reflect permission to you. You have to use your imagination and open up to the possibility that something else may work for you. But the bottom line is, you’re the one who’s changing. You’re the one who’s working. These are just reflections. They’re just reflections. Do you understand this? You’re trying too hard. You need to relax. Relax. What’s your rush? You’re an eternal infinite being. What’s your hurry? Where are you going? The only place you’re ever going to wind up is right here and right now. Anytime you look around, what time is it?

Asker: Now.

Bashar: What’s your hurry? Where have you got to go in such a rush? Rush? Well, slow down. Enjoy. Be here. Enjoy whatever you’re doing.

Dilemma

Asker: So the thing that’s most on my mind is the idea of being torn between two possibilities, two possible paths.

Why are you torn? Um, are they both equally exciting?

Asker: They seem to be.

Bashar: Do you have the same degree of ability to take action on both of them?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: Then it doesn’t matter which way you go. Because if one, in that sense, needs to end or divert, you then it will automatically contain the synchronicity that will turn you toward the other one when it needs to.

Asker: I’ve been looking for all the hints, all the clues of synchronicity, and I’m getting signals in both directions.

Bashar: Yeah. And I have… there you are. Making two definitions where only one needs to exist. Remember that sometimes what appear to be two different things that excite you are just two different expressions of the same overall umbrella excitement.

Asker: Oh, I see. So maybe this is all just drama that’s exciting to me.

Bashar: Maybe. You don’t have to make it seem like it’s a tug of war and you’re torn. It could just be that both things are representative of your excitement as expressions of your excitement. And therefore, it doesn’t really much matter which one you do at any given moment, since all excitement is connected to all other excitement.

Asker: Yes. Um, so does this help you, or is this only causing more tears?

Asker: No, it’s… it’s definitely going in the right direction. Right. Whichever one that is.

Bashar: All right. Um, can you, in your imagination, come up with an overall umbrella excitement that these two things you talking about could be expressions of?

Asker: I’m still working on it.

Bashar: All right. Well, why don’t you define what appears to you to be two different exciting things? What are they?

Asker: One would be to move to a different location, such as Japan.

Bashar: All right.

Asker: And the second would be to stay here.

Bashar: Yes. And stay. And you can’t go back and forth?

Asker: Well, it involves a relationship as well.

Bashar: Oh, all right. And you can’t go back and forth because your so-called explanation that it involves a relationship doesn’t mean anything to me in terms of your ability to go back and forth.

Asker: Yes. Okay. So it would involve living in a different location than my partner wants to live in. So my girlfriend wants to be here forever and never move and never go anywhere.

Bashar: No, not forever. All right. Is she willing to go back and forth?

Asker: Uh, no. I don’t think so.

Bashar: Oh, all right. Are your differences compatible? Because that’s the secret to a working relationship. The similarities take care of themselves. The issue is: are your differences compatible?

Asker: Um, for the time being.

Bashar: Compatible. Um, for the time being. All right. But if they become non-compatible, then things change. Yeah. There you go. Does that provide a solution for you, or does that cause more tearing?

Asker: It raises the question for me: in which direction do they change?

Bashar: In which direction? Always the direction of your preference. Exactly.

Asker: So I have to decide my preference.

Bashar: Exactly. So once you decide your preference, then you will know what to do. And the idea may be that you need a bigger definition to include something larger. I see. Because maybe your definition of a relationship is limited in such a manner as to make this seem like a problem when it may not actually be. Okay.

Um, with regard to the chakra centers of the earth, did that help you?

Asker: It did. This is on the same… I’m not getting derailed. I’m going to bring it back together. Um, the experience will be different depending on what region you’re in. Surely. Yes. If you make a difference of it. Yes. Um, I mean, thematically, with regard to the chakra centers. Yes. So, um, what are… what could I expect? Nothing. In okay. If I want to align myself with the one that’s closest to my vibration, yes. Which should I choose? How? What signs do I look for? How do I intrinsically know?

Bashar: Um, which direction are you taking action every moment that you can, to the best of your ability, on whatever does excite you, taking it as far as you can?

Asker: That means no. I’d take it pretty far. Pretty far. I don’t… I haven’t thought of that. Maybe I’m not… maybe I’m like 99%.

Bashar: Let me ask you another question. What do you get out of this tug of war?

Asker: Oh, yes. I get the comfort of knowing that I made the correct decision so I don’t have to go and backtrack and think about…

Bashar: No, no, no. That’s not what I’m asking you. In the situation in which you perceive yourself to be torn in two directions, what are you getting out of creating that scenario for yourself?

Asker: I’m not certain yet.

Bashar: All right. Is there anything in this situation you’re using as a lever or a permission slip of some kind? What we are simply suggesting is: are you using one to leverage the other?

Asker: I’ve considered that. Yes. All right. And are you doing that?

Asker: I haven’t decided to do that yet. I think I’m going to do that. But it’s… they definitely are related to one another.

Bashar: Yes. But we’re also talking about the idea whether you do that in a positive or a negative way. Sure.

Asker: So I want to make it the best for others who are involved as well. Obviously respecting… you just found the secret. Did you hear it?

Bashar: I can you give me a hint here?

Bashar: There is a balancing act here. Yes. The primary thing is to act on your highest joy, to be true to yourself. Yes. Your conundrum is: what is yourself? The idea also, then, to answer that question, is: in being true to yourself, are you also being of service to others? Right?

Asker: That’s what I want to maintain. That’s what I want to do. That’s my goal.

Bashar: So the idea, thus then, of the relationship is: having this relationship in this form representative of A) being true to yourself and her being true to herself, and B) if you decide on whatever you decide, is that decision also based on not only being true to yourself but being of service to her? I see.

Asker: So if I’m not being honest with myself 100%, then it’s not being of service to her anyway. So I have to consider… yes.

Bashar: And therefore, what you are dealing with here is an issue of clarity and being honest with yourself about what is really most important to you, vibrationally speaking, that represents your highest joy. And knowing that you can contain many things within that, but you may be setting up a contradiction for yourself to give yourself the opportunity to really decide what you actually truly desire.

Asker: Yeah. I want to be a responsible decision and not just an impulse.

Bashar: So all right. Now, do you meditate?

Asker: Not currently. Well, not… that’s not entirely true. Um, very little. Very little currently.

Bashar: All right. Over the next three nights, we would suggest that you simply get into a relaxed posture, a state of repose, of meditation if you wish. And over the next three nights, ask for assistance for clarification of who you truly are, vibrationally. And over the next three nights, you can receive assistance to help clarify the situation for you. Do not be afraid of what you see. Okay. All right. Thank you very much. Just go with it. Let it sink in. Don’t have to make a hasty decision. Just allow it to sink in in a manner until you are certain you have absolute clarity about your relationship to the circumstance and everyone in it. Clarity about your relationship to everyone in the situation and the situation itself as to why you believe you find it exciting. Because sometimes clarity can show you that something you may actually be labeling as excitement may not be, and something you’re not labeling as excitement might be. You need absolute precise clarity as to what is truly exciting and what may simply be being disguised as excitement because it’s something you may wish to avoid.

What is the Buddha?

Asker: what is the Buddha? And is a Buddha a being who has achieved a complete body? If so, is a complete body the same as a light body or a rainbow body? And is this something your people are also trying to achieve?

Bashar: We try nothing. We simply are what we are.

We are evolving to higher light states even as you are. As you are going from third density to fourth density, euphemistically, we are going from fourth to fifth. A Buddha, in that sense, is that which reflects and emanates and represents and is aligned with the collective World Spirit, the collective consciousness of all beings on your planet and in your sphere of influence. Okay. Does that make sense?

Asker: humans… why do they… why do some people put so much emphasis on meditation to obtain Enlightenment?

Bashar: Because that may be the way that works for them. It doesn’t have to work that way for everyone. But they may have attracted themselves to the methodology that they believe works best for them. By quieting the self, very often they can, shall we say, get around the mental chatter that they may believe keeps them from knowing themselves more clearly. Meditation can be one of the ways in which that is done. But there are many forms of meditation as well. Sometimes just standing in the shower can be the strongest form of meditation if you simply let your worries melt away. Whatever works for you works for you. Make sense? Because remember, even in the Buddhist texts is the idea that physical reality and being fully in physical reality is sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do. Hence the phrase: “Chop wood, carry water.” That’s also a meditation. Just doing the things you do in life can also be a meditation if you do it with the appropriate relationship. Does that make sense?

Asker: Yes. Um, going with that, yes… wh… why… kind of draw a blank here. Well, all right. You have achieved a Buddhist state. Wh… why is it that the Buddha… no, you answered your own question and then you removed it from yourself again. But go ahead. Probably. Um, so yes. But why is it that Shakyamuni Buddha taught that we are in a state of Samsara and that we must try to get out of there?

Bashar: Is no trying. The idea is to understand that what was being said is that it is important to form a sense of attached detachment to physical reality so that you do not become overwhelmed or immersed too deeply in the idea of physical reality so that it appears to be, in that sense, a straitjacket. For some people, certain methodologies work. And you must understand, there are many belief systems that exist on your planet, aren’t there?

Asker: Aren’t there? Yes.

Bashar: Therefore, there have to be different teachers to address the different belief systems. So the Buddha will address certain belief systems that work for certain people, and other beings will address different belief systems that work for others. Period. Remember that any belief system must make itself appear to be the only belief system that works in order for it to work for the people that believe it. Make sense?

Asker: Yes. Uh, that’s how beliefs work. If beliefs didn’t make themselves appear to be the only belief that would work, no beliefs would work. You wouldn’t have an experiential physical reality. So any belief system must make itself appear to be exclusive to other beliefs, or that belief won’t work for the people that are attracted to use it.

Bashar: Okay. Um, going with that, yes. What about the idea of suffering? And what about it? And karma?

Bashar: Karma is self-imposed. So is suffering. The idea is that polarity exists. And yes, there are challenges. You don’t have to suffer. And in a sense, the whole point of suffering is to learn that you don’t need to suffer anymore. Which is similar to the idea of karma. The whole idea of learning about karma is to recognize that as soon as you understand that karma is self-imposed, there is no more karma. There is always balance, but that’s not in the sense of the old idea of karma that there is some sort of punishment or forced idea upon the person.

Asker: Okay. So if there is self… if it’s self-imposed, yes. Then what about the people that go and they do very bad things to other people? Negative things.

Bashar: Negative things. They will experience the consequences of those actions. But you could call it karma, but we simply call it the third law: what you put out is what you get back. It’s simply physics. Karma is nothing but physics. But we remove the idea of the word because we know that in ancient times, the connotation of the word karma carried a value judgment. And there’s no value judgment to it. It’s just physics. Positive energy is integrative and expansive. Negative energy is segregative and destructive. So the idea is that if someone exhibits negative energy, they’re going to experience the consequences of segregation and destruction upon themselves at some point. And to balance that out, they simply must do positive energy things to balance it out. Now, if you want to call that karma, that’s fine. But all we’re simply saying is that version of karma is all there is. And all it is is physics: what you put out is what you get back.

Asker: So after death, yes. Is it possible for that… for the effects of that to carry over to after somebody dies?

Bashar: Yes. So that’s yes. But only to the degree that they are willing to explore it. Very often, when people on your planet die, they will immediately experience a reality that is based on the strongest thing they believe they will experience after they die. If they don’t have a particular belief, then they will simply get the results of whatever the combination of their beliefs happen to be, both positive and negative. But very soon, they will learn very quickly—because there is not the same kind of time and space in non-physical reality—very quickly, they will learn that they control that and that they can create whatever they want. Now, “quickly” is relative. Sometimes, compared to the idea of the time frame of physical reality, it may seem as if a spirit may go through the idea of that kind of self-evaluation and self-balancing over what may appear to be thousands of years. Or it can appear to happen in a split second. Because time is relative in that sense. But it just depends on the vibrational relationship between that particular spirit and physical reality in terms of how that’s perceived. Does that make sense?

Asker: I’ll trying to inter… uh, take that.

Bashar: We are saying all that we are saying is that every single thing you do has consequences and ripples within the idea of existence. And there is nowhere to run away from it. So at some point, at some state, at some stage, everything that is done, once the barriers drop, once the illusion of separation goes away, you will experience the energy of everything that has been done by you. But the idea is that you will learn from that experience what it is you now wish to do with that experience. And you can decide to do anything you want with it. But the idea is that as you learn what you can do, that you automatically become a more balanced being because you’re willing to learn from every experience, both positive and negative. And the more you’re willing to allow yourself to learn from every experience, the more balanced you become. And the more positive experiences you then choose from that point forward. Even though you always have the option to choose negative ones, they just become equal choices at a certain point of enlightenment. And you simply choose what you prefer without devaluing what you don’t.

Asker: Yes. All right. Here on Earth, we have a problem with, u, the example is mosquitoes. Mosquitoes. Yes. And uh, well, not everyone has a problem with them, you know. Okay. Maybe not everyone. But um, all right. I want to use this an example. If mosquito… if I’m meditating, yes. And if mosquito is coming around me biting me, and if I include the mosquito in the meditation…

Bashar: The idea of enlightenment is integration, not exclusion. So whatever is happening in your reality, if you include it as part of your experience, you will see how you can incorporate it and expand, rather than attempting to exclude and thus diminish. Make sense?

Asker: What if I can’t include it and I end up killing it?

Bashar: Then you do. And thus then, you will learn from that at some level as to whether or not that’s what you prefer to do. And perhaps from that, from learning what you, in a sense, do not prefer to do, you will then more clearly understand what you do prefer to do. But it’s something… something uh, to me that seems so trivial.

Bashar: As to it’s not trivial. Nothing is. Okay. So killing that mosquito is not trivial. Yes. And um, and yet at the same time, it’s up to you to decide utterly what you will do with that experience. So there are consequences with even that behavior. Yes. Of course. But the word “consequence” only means that there is, in a sense, a response. There is a vibration that is accounted for. The word itself, consequence, is not negative. It simply means you have to take stock. You have to take account of everything that you have created, one way or another. So it’s now, by doing any act at all, it’s now on your ledger book. It adds up to the bottom line. And it determines what you now have to deal with.

Asker: So for somebody with a high spirituality, if they committed an act like that, would they have serious consequences?

Bashar: Serious is relative. There is consequences. But depending upon the individual and why they chose to do it, the consequences would be commensurate. And the response and the awareness would be commensurate with why they did that. You are describing the idea of an individual, you say, is very highly spiritually enlightened. So it begs the question as to why that kind of an experience would actually have even been attracted into their lives. For if they are highly spiritual and that kind of an experience happened, then probably it happened for a very spiritual reason, and they would know that. Okay. Perhaps in that case, for example, they simply acted out of spirituality and by doing so prevented someone else from catching malaria. And they knew that. Do you understand? And you have to look at it also from the mosquito’s point of view. Because the mosquito consciousness may have attracted itself to that enlightened person to give that enlightened person an opportunity to decide also which way the mosquito’s energy and consciousness should also go in that reality. And perhaps the mosquito wanted to transition to another level and use the Buddha to do it. Okay. So who’s the enlightened one?

Q&A Session 12

Asker: I’m on the brink of making some big changes in my life. I feel like is it… yes. And I feel like I’m changing as a person. My perception of…

Bashar: How can you not change as a person when you make a change in your life? Do you understand what it means to be a person? Do you know what a person is?

Asker: I’m a person.

Bashar: Do you know what you are as a person? A person, in that sense, is a projection, a mask of consciousness created out of the idea of beliefs, emotions, and thought actions, behaviors. Okay. So the idea is that any change you make changes the balance of those things and literally—this is not an analogy—literally changes the person you are. I don’t care if you think you still look the same in the mirror. You’re not the same person from moment to moment. Literally. When you really wrap your mind around that, you will understand how profoundly you can experience true change. Because every change is a total change of everything everywhere. Right? You are actually shifting from one parallel reality to another and are a different person in that reality. Literally. So yes, of course, you are going to make a change, and you are going to be a different person. But in having said that, you already have made a change and are already a different person than began this conversation. Yes.

Asker: So I’m just wondering if I’m on the right path.

Bashar: Are you on the path where you are being your true self to the best of your ability and following your highest joy? Hesitation means no.

Asker: The only reason that I hesitate is because I feel that the changes that I make will affect others in my life.

Bashar: And are you, in that sense, willing to be responsible to them without being responsible for the decisions they choose to make of how to react to your changes? Can you be clear and honest in your communication about why you are making the changes you are making so they understand who you are and why you’re making those changes?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: Do you give them an opportunity to give you some advice and some insight, and that you yourself will then decide what to apply in your life?

Asker: Um, yes. I feel that… um, all right.

Bashar: Then you have done everything you need to do. And any reaction they have that is incompatible with your choices is their issue, not yours. Okay. Do you follow? Mhm. As long as you are being clear and open in your communication with regard to who you are, then they know who they are in a relationship with. And you can give them an opportunity to decide whether they wish to continue to be in a relationship with the “you” you have defined yourself to be. If they decide they do, then they will change accordingly. If they decide they don’t, then they won’t. But you have given them the opportunity. You’ve been responsible to them. You can’t be responsible for them or whatever their reactions are going to be. Okay. Make sense?

Asker: Makes sense. Another question. Yes. I feel like I’ve been asking for signs lately, and I feel like I’ve been receiving them. But sometimes I wonder if they’re coincidence. Is there such thing as…

Bashar: There is no such thing as an accident. Okay. You create synchronicity. And sometimes synchronicity is messages from guides and other beings. But the idea, nevertheless, is that you are creating your own road signs, are attracting them to yourself. Everything is an orchestration. And even though there is randomness in physical reality, what it is you decide to do freezes that randomness into a particular synchronistic path. So it’s not an accident in that sense. It’s all an orchestration. Sometimes certain things within the orchestration may not have the same degree of relevance to you that it might have to someone else. But that doesn’t mean it’s an accident. Okay. You understand? Even when many of you are, to use one of your situations, sitting in traffic, it is no accident who’s around you. It is no accident that you are around them. Look around and you will see more signs. Instead of assuming that something is wrong and that you are stuck, it’s all an orchestration. There is no accident to the timing of anything. Because it’s not about time; it’s about timing.

Asker: So I should follow these signs?

Bashar: In many ways, you can ignore the signs. That is your option. However, your reality will show you in no uncertain terms if you start going against the grain of your own true self. Because then your reality will have negative synchronicity, and things will become very, very sluggish and difficult for you. All pain is the result of resistance to the natural self. But that’s the joy of the pain. It shows you: “Hey, you’re swimming upstream. Why don’t you relax and go with the flow?”

Soulmate

Asker: last June, uh, I talked to you about the idea of a soulmate. Yes. And you said the idea of just feeling always feeling like I’m in love, ‘cuz that’s why we’re in love, because we like that feeling of being in love.

Because that is the natural state, right? And a soulmate can be anyone you’re interacting with at any given moment who teaches you something about yourself. Well, I’m thinking more in the line of a romantic relationship.

Bashar: Yes. I know you are. Nevertheless, understand that a soulmate doesn’t necessarily always have to come in that form, although it can. Okay. And so, um, I’ve worked on my belief system, and I’ve cleared a lot of things in other areas of my life. There are things manifesting like crazy, and I’m very excited.

Asker: Um, in this matter of soulmate, I would like you to go with me to what happened a couple of weeks ago because I wanted to explore the last layers of belief system that I may have regarding this issue.

Bashar: Right. Then by all means. What happened?

Asker: Um, I don’t really want to talk about it. I met someone…

Bashar: If you’re not going to be able to be of much help to you if you don’t share.

Asker: Well, can’t you go with me in my mind?

Bashar: If I to some degree. But if you’re unwilling to open the door, we can’t open it. Well, I mean, we only work by permission.

Asker: Okay. I give you absolute permission.

Bashar: Um, then what happened?

Asker: Okay. I met someone very briefly. Yes. As you would say, or not as humanity would say, accidentally. But I know there was no accident about it. And the energy of this person just really meshed with mine. And he expressed somewhat of an interest. And but it didn’t come to fruition. And I understand that I can look at this experience and say “so what.” Yes. But I would like to go to the next layer of really understanding what my belief system is. Because when I go in my mind visualizing him, his energy is so perfect with mine. Do you understand?

Bashar: What we have said about the idea of your physical mind’s capability to visualize? Yes. Therefore, you understand that even though you are using him as a symbol of the ideal relationship, he is only a symbol at the moment.

Asker: Absolutely.

Bashar: All right. Then it doesn’t matter whether it comes to fruition with him or someone else. Because if it’s only a symbol, your higher mind and your synchronicity will bring you the person with whom the actual vibration that the symbol represents can be experienced. So it doesn’t matter whether it’s him or someone else. You understand?

Asker: Absolutely. It might be him. But you don’t know that yet. Right. But I do want to explore my belief system about why, if this is a possibility, why it didn’t happen. Because I know there is some belief system in my thoughts that does not allow this manifestation to come through. May it be him?

Bashar: You really truly believe you’re ready?

Asker: Yes. Yes, I am.

Bashar: But there is one. Is he actually truly compatible on all the levels you actually prefer him to be?

Asker: I don’t know.

Bashar: Well, there you go.

Asker: But wouldn’t I have to go on a date with him and explore? Maybe not.

Bashar: So are you saying that the reason that it hasn’t come to fruition is that maybe he hasn’t hit all the points that I’m… maybe so. May I ask you a question?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: When it, as you put in your language, did not come to fruition, were you disappointed?

Asker: Yes.

Bashar: Yes. Then that’s why it didn’t come to fruition. Okay. Do you understand what I’m saying? Yeah. The situation proved to you that you still carry disappointment and are not truly living in the moment. So you’re not actually yet the person to whom someone like that could be attracted. Right? Do you understand?

Asker: Yes. So what you’re not using what did happen in a positive… in a positive way.

Bashar: So I’m not saying “so what” appointed your yourself from that position. You understand? You disappointed yourself from that relationship.

Asker: Okay. Could you explain that please?

Bashar: You removed yourself from the proper appointment. Dis-appointed. I did. Yes. Well, then that proves that that’s what it served. It reflected to you that you still carry that energy because you did not get what you expected to get. So you still had the expectation and didn’t allow it to be. Didn’t allow the relationship to be what it actually was. You put your expectation on what you thought it needed to be. Right?

Asker: And I have that. And that’s not what you actually want to do in an ideal relationship.

Bashar: No. I always get disappointed and say, “Okay, well, there I miss the boat again.” Or you didn’t miss anything if you allow yourself to learn that you do not need to be disappointed when what you expect to happen doesn’t happen. Then you will break through that particular threshold. So back to the “so what,” in a sense. Yes. Okay. Okay. It didn’t come to fruition. We didn’t go on a date. So what? Right. Then allow yourself to see what happens from there synchronistically. Right. Because if he is synchronistically right, because if he is going to be representative of that soulmate, something will happen to bring him back. And remember, it’s not him anyway. Because now he’s a different person. Doesn’t matter that he looks similar to the other guy. It’s not him. Do you understand? It’s not the same person. Because he had to come as a different version when you changed into a different version. So he is not the same person that was there a moment ago that didn’t go on a date with you. Okay. So it’s not the same person anyway. So it doesn’t matter that it’s not the same person. Because it never is. Right? No matter how they look. Okay. That’s just an illusion of continuity.

Asker: After getting together with you and your information and your knowledge, my life is really moving really fast. I’m very…

Bashar: Congratulations for making it your own knowledge. It’s very exciting.

Asker: It is. Um, one aspect of who I am has is not moving along with me.

Bashar: Is this another expectation?

Asker: Well, um, it’s it’s about my hair loss. Yes. And um, because I… are you becoming more Essassani?

Asker: Yeah. I don’t have any hair.

Bashar: Well, I’m a woman. I need to have hair.

Asker: Why do you need to have hair?

Asker: Because it’s taken away from what I look like. So am I becoming an Essassani? I don’t think I’m ready for that.

Bashar: Not many of you are. Yeah. Nevertheless, nevertheless, if this is my reality and my life, and I have a say in it, I’d like to have hair.

Bashar: All right. Then have hair.

Asker: So how can I… what is it about the belief system that I’m not able to change?

Bashar: Because when you allow what is to be what needs to be, then you can change it. Right? When you don’t allow it to be what it is, you have no control over it.

Asker: I totally… that’s the issue. I totally understand that.

Bashar: But no, not totally. Well, because you would be asking this question because it freaks me out.

Asker: Then you don’t totally understand it. Because when you totally understand it, it won’t freak you out. It will calm you down.

Asker: Well, can you help me understand it?

Bashar: I just did.

Asker: Well, it went right over my head.

Bashar: Right over your hairless head. That’s right. When you stop needing things to be a certain way, you have the ability to allow them to be however you prefer them to be. So stop needing things to be a certain way.