Let us begin with the understanding and the idea and the sharing that has to do with the relationship between physical mind and higher mind functioning as a whole person.
The Template Reality & Embryonic Formation
Now, each and every one of you made a choice—a choice to experience physical reality, to live a physical life. When that choice is made from Spirit, from the non-physical level, what you do, generally speaking—whether it be in full consciousness or automatically—is you’ll begin to lay out a foundation in what might be referred to as a template level reality, a frequency, a domain of reality just above physical reality. What some might refer to as a lower astral realm.
In this template reality, energy vibrations are somewhat slower than the idea of higher spiritual realms, but not quite as slow, not quite as dense as physical reality. Nevertheless, it’s close enough so that it can be used as a template to set up certain scenarios to play out, to blueprint certain scenarios that will be experienced in the physical reality to come. By setting up these scenarios, these themes for exploration in the template reality, you thus create a kind of automatic function that allows you to focus on the experience and exploration of that theme when you are in physical reality without having to think too much about how that’s being done. It’s part of the creation of the consensus agreement that happens in the template level reality where you all agree to create certain similar circumstances, certain similar conditions by which you will all experience physical reality. It’s the level on which you all generally agree to the general rules by which you will play the physical reality game.
Once then that has been established in template fashion and set into place, your consciousness then, in a sense, passes through that template on its way to physical reality, on its way to crystallizing yourself into physical materiality, bonding with the idea of the physical body, consolidating down to that focus. And by passing through that template level, you take on the attributes of the general agreed-upon reality. You start to imbue yourself and infuse your consciousness with a structure. You crystallize a particular structure that is representative of that reality in which you will have an experience.
A similar analogy would be to you that you are deciding to go deep sea diving and you must then prepare by putting on the proper wetsuit, putting on the proper diving apparatus and your breathing equipment. You prepare yourself for the environment into which you are about to plunge. Thus then, as you lower yourself, regulate your air, so on and so forth, become accustomed to the deeper pressure below the sea, so too in a sense do you become more accustomed by this crystallization process to the idea of the experience of physicalizing yourself and the limitations that go with that.
Now remember, even though this life for most of you is all about letting go of many of your limitations, many of them still serve a purpose. They still serve to keep you focused in physical reality, so just the concept itself of limitation is not inherently a negative one. What you do with that concept can be positive or negative.
Nevertheless, getting back to the idea of this progression, as you thus then connect to the idea of the physical seed that is being born to create a bonding with the concept of a body, you crystallize your spirit into that physicality. You actually aid and assist in the formation of that embryonic form, imbuing it with many of the crystallization ideas you have brought with you as spirit. And you work with that embryonic body in your mother’s womb to create the being, the personality structure that will best exemplify the themes that you chose to explore in the reality.
While working in that sense with that embryonic structure, you will find that most of the template ideas, most of the thematic ideas that you will explore in physical reality that you thus then crystallize into that embryonic body are done after or on the 49th day of the existence of that embryo. Up to that point, the embryo structure does not have the capacity to lock in those template ideas because what has not yet formed in the embryo is the necessary and essential and crucial pineal gland. Once the pineal gland exists, because it is in the brain, the gateway and the doorway between higher and lower realities, it is necessary for it to be there in the embryo to function as the gland that incorporates those template ideas and thus then starts to arrange the idea of the neurology of the brain in such a manner and the cellular structure of the body in such a manner as to be conducive to the ideas and the themes that are being crystallized in that body.
Once the embryonic form then is sufficiently organized to be a match for the frequencies that are representative of the kind of experiences and themes you have chosen to explore in physical reality, there then starts to become more and more and more a solid vibrational link between the idea of the physical form and the spirit form. Now this will still be somewhat tenuous for quite some time.
Even children that are born will have, generally speaking, anywhere from three to seven years to decide if they actually wish to play out that physical life—even longer—before the idea of the vibrational link between spirit and body becomes relatively cohesive and relatively unbreakable. But especially up to the age of three, you will find that many spirits may have only wanted to experience a little tiny bit of physical reality, just want to in a sense get their so-called spiritual feet wet but don’t necessarily want to have a full lifespan. So you will find that many individuals who are still very young will simply choose one day to leave. This is not the only reason, but it is one of the major reasons for what many individuals on your planet call unexpected crib death. They will just have lived out the span that they chose to live and they will simply go back into Spirit.
The idea also of what you might refer to as either miscarriage or abortion is also something that in a sense serves the spirit’s purpose of choosing someone who wouldn’t necessarily choose to have a full-term child, and thus by forming a link with a person who has made that kind of a choice, they will get to experience just the portion of physical existence that they chose to experience and no more. Now this is not in any way, shape, or form a commentary on that kind of choice. It is simply saying that nothing goes to waste and in that sense it all serves some spirit’s purpose. So in that sense, doesn’t need to be looked at in any kind of a judgmental way. It is simply a choice, a circumstance, and an opportunity that is taken advantage of by those it can serve.
Personality Structure & The Higher Mind
As you further crystallize the embryonic form and it starts to set up cellular structures and neurological pathways in the physical body that are representative of the kind of themes you will explore, what it also starts to create is the personality construct, the representation of the intelligence of the spirit. The consciousness of the spirit will in a sense be mocked up in the body. It will have a template form of its own that is represented by the capacity for belief systems, emotions, and thought patterns and actions.
This prismatic template in the brain is set up to receive certain kinds of information that are conducive to the expression of that spirit’s choice of thematic experiences. Thus that personality becomes uniquely fixed and uniquely capable of expressing itself along the lines specifically of the themes that were chosen for exploration. This is not to say that the personality cannot be malleable, for it is, but the idea is that it is specifically designed to absorb information that is along the lines of the chosen themes.
Now, of course, when a child on your planet is born to its parents, it will, because it is still absorbing, still laying the foundations of that template, still crystallizing for a while, it will absorb all of the telepathic input of the parents, of the society. And as it locks into that, it will pick up on belief systems from the parents from society and begin to incorporate those into its matrix as well. Often times both belief systems that are conducive to its thematic exploration and belief systems that are not necessarily conducive to its thematic exploration, except as belief systems that give the child an opportunity to later determine that it has a comparison to make between belief systems picked up from others that don’t belong to it and what belief systems it would prefer.
Again, all the absorption serves a purpose, but some of the belief systems may not necessarily ultimately be conducive to what that personality’s choices are, but it is still part of the theme of exploration to have picked up those belief systems from your parents and from your society in order to later decide more clearly, based on your comparison of self to those belief systems, who you are and who you are not. Because that’s a part of the experience generally that you explore in physical reality—to define yourselves and to go from the idea of limitation to less limitation, to go from the idea of forgetting to remembering, to go from the idea of pulling yourself together as a holistic being having gone through the idea of separation and segregation within your consciousness.
So it all serves a purpose. Even though you will divest yourself of certain belief systems as you grow, they still serve the purpose of being there because they gave you something to compare the ideal self against and gave you a measure of where you’re going. So in that context, all of your parents have served you even though they may not have known how they were doing it or what they were doing, even though they might have been, if within their own integrity, more capable of expressing the idea of love to you in a more positive way. Nevertheless, because they may have had their own fears, their own doubts, their own issues of exploration that may never have been resolved for them, they still handed down to you those things that still give you the opportunity to decide more concretely who you are—even if only by recognizing through what they have given you who you are not. So it still serves all of you in that way if you are willing to use it that way.
Now this brings us to the idea of the personality structure, the physical mind and its relationship to higher self. Let us now rewind this, go back a little bit to where you first were forming from Spirit that template reality.
Aside from the mechanism we have now described of forming the physical side of the personality, the physical side of the person you will be in physical reality experience, at the same time when you lay out that template, you also from Spirit create a duality. You create not only the physical side, the physical mind, but you create the template called the higher mind that goes specifically with that person. So every person is a person in totality when they express the idea of physical mind and higher mind. That is what makes you a whole person capable of exploring the idea of physical reality.
Above that level, what you might call Soul or Spirit, it isn’t broken out in that way. It is mostly the experience of what you would simply call all higher mind, but it is not the same exact experience of higher mind—not the higher mind template that is formed to go hand in hand with the physical persona. But the higher mind template that is formed by the spirit acts as the liaison between the physical mind and the higher levels of your own soul, and so it remains to a great degree in the template level reality.
Again, it is by analogy the individual still standing on the boat helping the diver who has gone down below, making sure that they are given every support that they need, making sure they are still in communication and helping to guide them from the surface in any way that they can by taking readings of what’s going on around them and helping them in their exploration down below. So higher mind stays on the boat, physical mind goes deep sea diving.
Now once this relationship is established, then the idea is to get these two to work in concert, to get the physical mind and the higher mind to work in concert.
Now because your view deep, deep, deep under the ocean is limited—as it is when you go as a spirit deep, deep, deep into physical reality—the idea is to rely on the higher mind, the person on the boat, to be able to guide you to the horizon because they can see farther than you can. The deeper you go in the ocean, the darker it gets, the murkier it gets, the less visibility you have. The deeper you go into physical reality, the more limited your point of view can be. But you can always rely on the fact that the higher mind still up there on the surface, on the boat, can see clearly to the horizon and can with the proper communication guide the diver in the proper direction.
So the idea then is to recognize that because you will experience a kind of disconnection from the surface, disconnection from the higher realm, it is important to rely on the communications of the higher mind for guidance. However, the paradox is that very often—not so much that it has to be this way anymore in your reality, but especially in your history—diving deeply into physical reality has created the kind of disconnection and the kind of forgetfulness and the kind of limitation that allows you to not even remember you have had a higher mind.
And therefore you have created within yourselves, nevertheless, as part of your template, an urging—an urging within the physical persona to seek the higher mind because the higher mind knows. And the spirit knew when it formed the template that it was highly likely the physical persona might get lost in the darkness. So it always gave the physical persona that one seed, that one spark, that urge to go toward the idea of the light, to go toward the idea of the higher mind and to form that reconnection.
This is expressed as the creative desire, the desire for love. That is what that is—the feeling of desiring love, the feeling of love, the desire to express oneself fully creatively. In that sense, different ways of expressing, of experiencing the seed that is created in the template that urges you back in that direction, urges you to reconnect with the higher self.
Now again, because of the degree of disconnection experienced and the degree of forgetfulness that exists in the idea of physical reality, we understand that even that can sometimes be distorted, be clouded, be filtered. Nevertheless, the urge is there. It is always driving you to look for that which allows you to feel complete.
And in many ways, when many of you are looking for things to allow you to feel complete, that’s actually what you’re looking for—you’re looking for your connection to the higher mind, to reconnect, to form that relationship with the higher mind. We understand that many of you may, because of the forgetfulness, because of the filtration, because of the disconnection, because of the distortion, you may interpret the idea of that which you need for completion in a variety of different ways. Some individuals will feel that desire for completion by expressing it through the need for another person, or the need for sustaining oneself with food, or many other things.
This idea, however, is all predicated on the notion that what you’re actually looking for is that reconnection to the higher self. This is not to say it cannot be expressed in a number of ways or that those things cannot to some degree represent part of the path of reclaiming that connection. But very often, because of the forgetfulness, the physical mind and the ego structure may assume that the thing that in some sense is on one level representative of that reconnection is the reconnection itself, and it is All-That-Is needed for the reconnection. And it often stops you short of making the reconnection because then you become fixated on the symbol of the reconnection rather than the reconnection itself.
The Ego Structure
Now the idea of the ego structure is basically this: it is simply for the purpose—it’s really only job is simply for the purpose of keeping you focused as a physical personality in your physical reality experience. That’s its job. It’s just to focus you in physical reality. Ego in a sense is like the diving mask that gives you the ability to have a clear view underwater so that things are not too murky, so that you can see sort of at least to some degree what is ahead of you, where you are going. It brings things of the physical reality into focus so that you can concentrate on them, so you can focus on them, so you can have a physical reality experience.
It creates the idea and reinforces the idea of the belief systems that are part and parcel of the template of your consciousness, of your personality structure that you have created. It reinforces them so that those beliefs can be experienced as fully as possible. That’s why every single belief is self-reinforcing—because the ego’s job is to add energy to it, add focus to that belief, to make it seem as if no other belief is possible in order for you to focus on the belief strongly enough to actually have the physicalized manifestation and the experience that goes hand in hand with that particular belief you are holding to be true at any given moment.
So the ego’s job is to amplify those beliefs, to keep you focused in physical reality, to keep you focused in that experience. But when there is a degree of forgetting that exists to the extent that it has in your reality, very often because of that sense of disconnection, because of that experience of disconnection—not that you’re ever really disconnected because you cannot be, but you can create the experience of disconnection to such a degree that the physical personality structure, the ego structure, can forget that it’s not actually the one in charge.
It can forget that it has a helpmate in the template reality called the higher mind. It can forget that it is not doing this alone. And in suddenly finding itself in the experience of being alone, it starts to build up the idea of fear. It starts to reinforce belief systems in a way that perpetuates its existence beyond the necessary level that it is actually required to generate for its continued existence. It starts to think that if it is all there is, then it’s in charge of everything. The burden and the weight of the world is on its shoulders. The responsibility for everything that happens in your physical reality is up to the ego structure.
And it starts to take on that job when it is not built for that job. It starts to burden itself, stress itself, and in that way it starts to break down. It starts to do wildly incongruous, wildly irrational things to strengthen itself and strengthen itself under the feeling that it is crumbling under the weight. And by constantly reinforcing and strengthening itself in a way it was not designed to do, it can become extremely dense, extremely crystallized, and very difficult then to allow to expand back out into its more relaxed state, its more relaxed focus.
And when it gets that concentrated, the amount of energy the ego puts into belief systems that are generally fear-based are going to be almost overwhelming because it is taking on this burden from a perspective of fear. Most of its energy, most of its reinforcement is going to be fear-based. It’s going to choose those things that are based on survival mode. It’s going to reinforce itself with the idea that it must survive at all costs at this concentrated level, otherwise your life will end, it will be annihilated, the personality will dissolve. So the ego structure does everything it can to take on this tremendous burden.
Let’s all give the poor little ego a break before the ego breaks down.
The Relationship Between Physical Mind And Higher Mind
Therefore, in this day and age, even in that concentration of ego, physical personality structure, even in that degree of density, look—you have still felt that little seed, that little urge that calls you back to the higher self, back to that frequency, back to the light. Even from that deep degree of murky darkness, you still were capable of sensing somewhere that there must be some kind of higher vibration that calls to you, that tugs at you, that pulls at your heart, that allows you to feel, to know there is some level of reality where the ego is free, the personality is free to be what it was designed originally to be, and that there is no need for the stress and strife and struggle and dire consequences and dire experiences that the ego has for thousands of years on your planet sought to perpetuate in generation after generation after generation, constantly being reinforced and reinforced from generation to generation to generation.
Now is the timing that you have finally gotten to the point where the light is bright enough, where enough of you are seeking that light within yourselves, that you are adding that to the collective reality and giving each other better opportunities with your collective momentum to know that there is a level of reality, a level of yourselves, a level of your whole being that is more than capable of reconnecting with you, that you deserve to reconnect with and deserve to lighten your load, lighten up on yourselves, take the load off, drop the baggage, and get on your way through life in an easy and effortless creative manner. And this is the time and the age on your planet where you’re now realizing that. So congratulations.
Now we will share something with you to further strengthen the idea of the many different ways that you are starting to attract yourselves back to your own higher minds. So we will now share a little secret with all of you that we have shared with a few.
And it is this: in these conversations that you are having with us, whether they be in this group structure or in one-on-one scenarios, doesn’t matter—when you are speaking with us, you are actually speaking with your own higher mind. You are not speaking directly with us at all. Ever.
What we have done to aid and assist you by your invitation is we have wrapped the flavor of our personality like a shell around the core of your own higher self. And in every conversation we have with you, what we are doing thus then is giving you an excuse to talk to your own higher mind by tricking you into thinking you’re talking to something else. Because that something else was one step removed from your own higher mind. In that context, it wasn’t as scary to the ego as thinking that you are actually addressing your own higher mind and all that that implies in terms of what you now have to take responsibility for.
Therefore, the idea was that if you could find some vibration, some representation of a being that at least would represent that level but was still one step removed, then it wouldn’t be quite as scary and you could deal with it at your own pace in a comfortable way. Well, the idea here is that yes, while obviously we are involved, the actual communication you are having with us is actually the communication with your own higher minds, but wrapped in our vibrational flavor in order to allow you to use us as a permission slip to give yourselves permission to actually communicate with your own higher minds in a relaxed way and get your assumptions and your beliefs and your definitions and your ego structure out of the way so that you will allow yourself that communication.
Practical Application & Negotiating With The Ego
Now with this realization, then you can begin more and more every day in every way to relax the idea that there is fear attached to speaking and reconnecting to your own higher mind. The ego can now be taught that it will not die, it will not be annihilated just because you are going to make a conscious reconnection to your higher mind. It will be given the opportunity to just do its job in a relaxed, creative, and loving way. It will be given its proper place in the idea of that whole person’s structure. It will be allowed to simply perform as it was designed to perform. It will not be overburdened with tasks and jobs that do not belong to it and not only do not belong to it but for which it is not designed, not capable of actually carrying out.
As we have said previously in other transmissions, physical personality is not designed—is not capable, literally not designed—to know how something is going to happen. It’s not designed to read the giant template where the higher mind resides. It is only designed to know how something is happening or has happened in physical reality.
So the idea is that when the ego forgot that it was connected to the higher mind, it thought it needed to take on the job description of the higher mind of trying to figure out how everything is going to happen. “Well, this is my dream, this is my desire, now how am I going to make that happen? I don’t know, but I’m going to try, I’m going to struggle, I’m going to pull a little at this, I’m going to grab straws, I’m going to reach out, flail out, flail around till I can figure out how to make this work, how to force it to work, how to push everything together in the way that I want it to be.”
When in fact, it’s simply the idea of allowing the higher mind to bring it to you in the way the higher mind knows is best for the whole person that you have chosen to be and best for the themes that you have chosen to explore. Only the higher mind knows how it is best for that to happen because only the higher mind can see all the way to the horizon, can see the full path ahead, knows where all the twists and turns are, and thus knows what is actually the quickest route to the manifestation of your dreams.
But when the physical ego thinks that it knows the best route, it will constantly be slamming into walls, bouncing off of rocks, banging its head into walls and all sorts of things because it believes that it knows and it is the only thing that knows. And it will insist on going certain ways that it has been taught to believe is the quickest path to its dreams and desires, but which very often is actually the longest route.
So instead of going around these things—around the things that it defines as obstacles—it will stand in front of them and constantly bash itself against these obstacles instead of listening to the higher mind that tells it that even though it may seem to take a little longer to go around, it’s actually the quickest route because by going around you will go that much more quickly than the time it will take for you to stand there and smash your head against the wall until you finally figure out you’re not going to go through it.
So the idea again is to recognize that physical mind does not have the capacity to know how something’s going to happen. Let that be the job of the higher mind. Just allow the physical mind to enjoy what it is brought to see how it happened, to marvel at the synchronicity of how the higher mind was capable of organizing events so that it would serve the idea of the theme you chose to explore in the most loving, creative, beneficial, joyful way possible, most playful way possible.
You must learn that the physical mind and the higher mind need to work together in order to be the whole person. Because if in that sense you are only using your physical personality, your physical mind in an attempt to figure out how everything is supposed to work, you are literally walking through life half-witted. You’re only using half of your full mind. So the idea is to understand that you really don’t have a whole mind until you form a reconnection and a relationship and a communication style with the higher mind that allows you free-flowing trust, free-flowing communication in that relationship of functioning like a whole being.
Now, imagination has been given as part of the personality structure to allow it to understand that it always has access to the higher mind. Imagination is the conduit, the pipeline to the higher mind and from the higher mind. But again, when the ego structure becomes so crystallized, so densified that it thinks it’s the one in charge and has to figure every single little thing out, it will not trust the imagination. It will shut the door to the imagination because it seems unreal, superfluous, having nothing to do with what the ego has determined are the necessary things it must do to get where the person wants to go. So it will close and constrict that pipeline and it will not trust the imagination because it seems like the imagination is irrelevant, has nothing at all to do with what the ego has determined are the necessary steps.
But what it has done by doing that is it has constricted the flow of communication coming from the higher mind that is actually the kind of information the physical personality needs in order to actually relax itself and move on through life in an effortless way.
The idea again is to understand that once you form a relationship with the higher mind, once you form a balanced relationship with it, imagination is the conduit through which inspiration will come and in which you will allow the physical personality to know that it is in constant communication with the person up on the boat and that it will never be guided into a crevice, it will never be guided into the mouth of a shark, it will always be guided straight toward the horizon that represents the dream and the theme that the personality chose to explore. And all the transitions can happen quite magically when those lines of communication are open.
Again, we remind you of this: very often the ego might be willing to use the imagination a little bit, but again it often subverts the use of the imagination for its own purposes to reinforce its own ideas of what it thinks is the best way to allow something to manifest. The physical personality may be willing from time to time to create a vision, an ideal vision of the dream. It will create the scenario—you have heard us say and you’ve heard many say “visualize, visualize, visualize, create a mockup in your mind’s eye, in your imagination of the ideal scenario that represents to you the idea of your highest excitement, your highest passion.” And this is a good thing to do, this is a positive thing to do, it is a beneficial and creative thing to do to use your imagination and visualize what is a representation—the closest possible representation you can create with your physical mind of that ideal scenario that you say is representative of your passion, of your dream.
But here is the key: it is only a representation.
Now, this is not to say that what you imagine at that moment cannot come to pass exactly as you have imagined it. Often times it happens exactly that way, and that is all well and good. But the only reason it may have happened that way is you actually allowed a momentary opening and actually recognized what the higher mind was telling you was the representation of the best way for you.
Nevertheless, here is where many individuals on your planet fall into the trap again because of the ego structure’s predilection for thinking it has to figure everything out and know how everything is going to happen. When the ego structure may make a vision that is representative of the ideal reality, what the ego tends to think—because it thinks of itself as the highest possible authority for your person—it tends to think that that vision it has created by using imagination in that way to paint that picture in your mind, it thinks that’s the highest possible way in which that reality could manifest.
But from the higher mind’s point of view, that picture that to the ego seems like the highest possible manifestation form is actually the lowest possible manifestation form. What to the physical ego is the ceiling, to the higher mind is the floor. It can go much higher than that. And in many ways, it can actually go so high, so far, it can actually be beyond physical mind’s capability of imagining how it could occur.
That’s why you do not need to insist—the physical mind and the ego does not need to insist—that the picture it conjures up as a representation of the ideal scenario must be the exact way that it must manifest, otherwise something has failed, something has gone wrong. It is just used as a template to pass onto the higher mind the basic idea that represents—pay attention—the proper vibrational state of being that the physical being needs to experience in life in order to perpetuate its joy.
The higher mind will take that template, take that representation because after all it exists in a template reality, it understands template language very well. That’s its nature—native tongue, template symbols are its native tongue. It understands symbols very well. It will take that symbol and recognize that that symbol simply represents the proper state of being, the proper energy that needs to be created. And so the higher mind will then take that symbol and it will reach out to all the things it understands are available—all of the “how can this happen” sort of thing—and it will match those things to the proper template frequency and then bring that into the reality as opportunities for the physical mind to act upon.
But when the physical mind hesitates to act on the synchronicities that are brought to it because the ego says “I don’t recognize that as the template I set up” and doesn’t trust that the higher mind could have actually brought it the opportunity it wants in a different form other than what the ego determined it should be, it will refuse to act on those things. It will refuse to recognize those as opportunities. Those opportunities coming from the higher mind will even be invisible to the physical mind—it just simply won’t even know they are even there to be acted upon. And therefore it will miss those doorways and will never walk through them and will never see the manifestation of its desires because it has been too insistent on the “how” and not allowed the higher mind to actually show the physical mind the true “how”—because the higher mind can actually imagine ways far beyond the physical mind’s imagining of how such a thing could occur.
So all well and good to set up the parameter of a visualization for the physical mind, but don’t insist it must manifest that way because the higher mind might be capable of bringing it to you far greater than you ever imagined. Let it, let it, let it—at least that’s our suggestion. It’s up to you.
Distinguishing Between Ego And Higher Mind
So now, many individuals have wondered: “Well, if the physical ego thinks it’s in charge and attempts to shut out all other forms of communication because it doesn’t trust them coming from the higher mind, how do I know the difference between when the physical mind is telling me ‘Oh, this is representative of your excitement’ and when the higher mind is telling me ‘This is representative of your true excitement’? How can I tell the difference? Because if the ego is attempting to trick me into staying its course because it thinks if I veer off that we’re going to die, it’s going to dangle all sorts of carrots in front of me to get me to stay on that course. So how do I tell the difference between that kind of a carrot and the carrot that represents going in the direction of my true self?”
All right, fair question. It all comes down to what we have spoken of so often. It all comes down to excitement. It all comes down to passion. But again, we hear the ego saying: “How can I tell the difference? How do I know it’s really my true excitement?”
Now, this requires paying some attention to yourself—really paying attention to the true feelings. It does require at least a modicum of willingness—a modicum of willingness to tell the ego to shut the hell up, at least just for a moment, so that I can hear my true self. At least take a breath. At least take a pause. At least stop and wonder whether or not you are actually being shown something that is representative of a fear or something that is representative of a joy.
Because we understand that when you’re in that confused state, anxiety can actually seem like excitement, and excitement can actually seem like anxiety. But this is why it’s so critical to take that pause, to allow yourself to at least be in charge enough, be willing enough to tell the ego to be quiet for a moment so that you can get in touch with your inner being and tell the difference in the quality of the vibration of the emotion you are feeling at that moment with respect to the idea you are exploring.
If you are quiet for that moment and willing to be open to be shown what it actually is, you will be able to tell the difference. You’ll be able to develop the discernment of the difference between the vibration of fear and doubt and the vibration of joy and certainty. You will be able to tell the difference because that ability to tell the difference is built into you. It’s built into your consciousness. And at that level, you all know the difference. But if the ego is making too much noise, if it’s not allowing you to stop and think, it does that specifically to prevent you from being able to tell the difference because it’s afraid that if you tell the difference, it won’t be in charge anymore. And to the ego, that means death because it doesn’t believe the higher self really exists.
So it’s all about finding that space of balance and peace within yourself that will allow you, even if only just for a moment, to allow the ego to be quiet enough so that you can use the natural mechanism of balance within your being that will tell you what the flavor of the emotion you’re feeling is. And thus by identifying the flavor of the emotion, that will then put you in touch with what kind of belief and definition you would have to have in order to be generating that emotion. And then you will know whether it comes from the physical negative ego or from the higher self—whether it is representative of fear, whether it is representative of excitement.
But you need that moment of quietude, you need that moment of solitude, you need that moment of peace. You have to be willing to step back. You have to be willing to let it be all right to not know what’s going on at the moment. You have to be willing to say “I don’t know what’s happening here” instead of just assuming it’s this or that or the other thing.
So anytime you find yourself in doubt about what you’re experiencing, take that moment and say “I don’t know what’s happening, and that’s okay.” And in that moment where you have actually admitted that you don’t know what’s going on, you can find the balance, the quiet, the peace, the stillness that will actually then start to allow you to be more sensitive to the quality of the vibration of what’s going on and give you more capability of having more insight as to what you are experiencing and what you are dealing with in terms of the physical mind or the higher mind.
So that’s the first step in forming the relationship, in reconnecting, in remembering who you are as a whole person. That’s the first step—just taking a moment of quiet, of pause, of stepping back into a neutral place and letting it be all right to not know what the answer is. As soon as you allow yourself to be all right in that balance point, you can allow the natural senses you were created with to begin to fill that stillness, to fill that little void of quietness, and they will begin to be heard. But you have to be quiet to hear them at first because they have been suppressed for so long in your society that at first it will only seem like a whisper. But you’ll recognize it in the quiet if you truly allow the quiet to happen. There will be no other sound, and thus you’ll be able to recognize the quality of those little whispered voices for what they are. And as soon as you really start paying attention to what they are, you can start to guide yourself with them in the direction of your preference.
And as you do that bit by bit—and this may take some practice, it’s all right—bit by bit you will start to gain more discernment as to exactly what vibration is representative of what. And you will start to pacify the ego into understanding that it’s not going to die, it’s not going to be annihilated. That in fact, this is what it really wants because it is tired of laboring under such stressful circumstances. It is tired of bearing the weight. And you’re going to take the load off and you’re going to bring it along. It’s not going to go anywhere. It is your friend. You love it. It is serving you. It is designed for a purpose of focusing you in the physical reality experience you wanted to have in the theme you wanted to explore, and you cannot live without it. Literally, you cannot live without it.
So in that sense, while you are forming a more loving relationship with your higher mind, the key to forming a more loving relationship with your higher mind is to actually form a more loving relationship with your ego and not allow it to continue to burden itself unbearably when it has no business doing so because it was never designed to handle that kind of weight, that kind of stress. So it’s all about loving all aspects of your self enough to be trusting enough to let them fall back into their proper place in the relationship, do the job they were designed to do, and thus then allow yourself to be loving enough to yourself to reap the benefit of that balanced relationship between physical mind and higher mind so you can function as a whole person.
News for the Soul Questions
Following Your Excitement with Financial Anxiety
The Ego and Following Excitement
Ego Sabotage and Negotiation
Who Is Making the Deal?
Entheogens, Mudras, and Out-of-Body Experiences
The Ego and Out-of-Body Experiences
Dreams and the Higher Mind
Negotiating with the Ego - Practical Application
Asker: I do spend time every day being quiet in meditation, trying to get my ego mind to shut up.
Bashar: This is where the negotiation comes in. Okay. So speak a little bit more about that. When you propose a negotiation, that you are proposing something that is fair for everyone—including the ego structure, including the physical mind, including the higher mind—that something can be worked out that will work for all. Now we understand that there may be a belief system within the physical personality structure that may not trust that, and you may have to work with that a little bit. But that is why we say: if you honor—if in the negotiation you promise to honor the belief systems that are already there that come from the physical mind’s fear-based belief—then by honoring it as much as is necessary, then you can prove over time that it is no longer necessary to hold those things to be as true.
So it does have to start, in a sense, with giving the physical personality—in a sense, let’s say you have to give it the first win in the negotiation. You follow me? Okay. By honoring the belief systems it has created, by validating them and recognizing that from the physical mind’s point of view they are valid—it’s only trying to protect you after all. It’s protecting itself, but it’s protecting you because it thinks itself is you.
So the idea is that what it’s doing, no matter how detrimental it may seem, no matter from what negative place it may seem to come, it’s doing it out of love. Making the statement in your negotiation—your opening statement in your negotiation—that you recognize that it’s doing what it’s doing out of love is the way to begin the negotiation. And then what you’re returning with is the idea that what you are also proposing is out of love because you want the ego to survive and you want it to experience joy in doing its job effortlessly.
And therefore, what you’re going to propose is a sensibly and reasonably paced unfolding of a change in a negotiation that honors its side, its view, while at the same time also allowing you to prove to it that the changes you are proposing will serve it as well. So it’s a win-win situation. But you must start any such negotiation by letting it in a sense win its first point because the ego is all about winning.
When you can teach the ego then that you’re interested in a win-win, it will start to relent and grant you some leeway. Then you can work with whatever it is it gives you. And even if you are given a seed, you can expand that and keep expanding that in your future negotiations as you prove bit by bit that the old beliefs are no longer necessary for the ego to continue to win.
At a certain point, you will cross a threshold in those negotiations where the ego will actually be eager to grant you more and more and more leeway because it will actually start to feel the burden lighten up on itself. It will actually start to feel more like its true self. It will actually start to stretch out and say, “You know, this isn’t half bad.” Well, in fact, then maybe it is just half bad, but it is working its way to being all good.
Yes, it helps. And I think it may answer the second part, but I’m going to ask it anyway. So then when I get the ego to be quiet for a while, then I spend the second part asking questions of my higher mind and then waiting for an answer and writing it down.
You can again—remember, it is important during this point to actually use this quiet time to begin a dialogue with your higher mind in whatever way will allow the ego to feel that you’re not tricking it.
Asker: Give me an example. Do the dialogue.
You have to express the idea that you’re going to—are you familiar with the idea, again this comes back to the idea of what you call business language—are you familiar with the idea of full disclosure? Yes. Well, that’s what you’re doing with the ego. Okay. You’re saying, “All right, the first win goes to you. And now, if you will allow me, I’m going to talk a little bit with the higher mind. Is that all right?”
Of course, the ego will think that you are something else talking to the higher mind when in fact the higher mind is actually saying that. Okay, you understand, yes? Because at first the ego won’t recognize you as the higher mind. But when you get the ego to be quiet, you actually start talking to it as the higher mind. But for a while, you may have to pretend that you’re not. You may have to pretend to seem to be a neutral party. Maybe you can even pretend you’re the negotiator in between the physical mind and the higher mind.
The point here is to use your imagination to make that negotiation work in whatever way it seems to work best. But what is important is full disclosure so the ego doesn’t feel it’s being tricked. And when the ego doesn’t feel it’s being tricked, the ego will have no reason to trick and sabotage you. So full disclosure is important.
All the lessons of what you call win-win business negotiation are applicable to negotiating with the ego structure.
Exponential Expansion and Resistance
Asker: I have been asking my ego to allow me to exponentially move forward away from what I recognize as limiting belief systems. And how has it responded? Well, it’s going pretty well. I have big dreams, but they feel surrounded by limitations. What happens is I get very close to the people and experiences that could usher me in towards them, and then something recoils and I end up sort of in a cross between dire circumstances and debt and this possibility of amazing things.
That’s because you have set up the negotiation to allow the ego to toy with you. Yeah. It’s a mean ego that I’ve got. I’m working on it. Again, the idea is to go back to the zero point, renegotiate the deal. Okay. Don’t be so insistent on having a particular kind of expansion. Even the idea of an exponentially expansive joyful life may not even be involved in the first negotiation. You may not want to enter that arena in the first negotiation. You may just want to start with just a little bit.
But if survival issues are up, that does begin to play into it. But what we are saying is that if you propose a less aggressive agenda to the ego, it will not feel threatened and survival issues won’t arise. Right. You see, you may have proposed too much for the ego to handle. You may have said “I want it all or nothing. I want to explode, expand at an exponential rate.” And the ego’s going, “Okay. We’ll see how far you get. Yeah. Go ahead. Go ahead. Oh, there she goes—oh, yes, expanding, expanding, expanding… yank, yank, yank you right back.”
Because you didn’t deal with the actual underlying reasons why the ego would feel the need to do that. So essentially it’s still an issue of not being gentle enough with the ego to let it feel it’s included in the bargain, not being gentle enough, and therefore not being—shall we say—precise enough in your investigation of what the underlying beliefs and definitions were that are creating the ego to be in the state that it’s in. Not understanding the ego clearly enough and why it is holding the position in the negotiation that it is.
When you understand the ego’s motivations, then you can deal with them in the negotiation. You cannot just bargain and run and not understand where the other side is coming from, otherwise they’ll pull the plug.
Asker: I hear you, but I’m trying as hard as I can.
So no, don’t try so hard. Why are you trying so hard? Are you in a hurry to get where you want to go? What kind of energy do you think that puts into a negotiation? “Oh, well, you don’t really want to be here talking to me. You want to be off having fun in some other place and leave me behind. I don’t believe you’re sincere in this negotiation.” The ego says, “You’re in too much of a hurry to get where you think you need to go. You’re not cherishing my value. You’re not staying in the moment, in the present, as if this was the most important thing in your life. I feel unloved and abandoned, and I’m going to get you back for that. Good. You’re being mean to me, so I’m going to be just as mean to you. Right.”
Are you getting the point now?
Asker: Yes, yes. I do, I get it. So completely.
It’s just that what I just told you—you need to relax and not be so eager to get where you think you need to go. You need to be nowhere more important than right here, right now, whatever is happening. And whatever process is important to go through in forming this dialogue and this negotiation with your ego is the most important thing in your life. And nothing and nowhere is more important to be. Forget about being anywhere else. This is the most exciting thing.
Asker: And if I end up on the street corner without a home…
Oh, good way to set yourself up.
Asker: Well, it’s heading there.
Who is saying that? A big, some bastard man? I’m going to go wrestle with him. The negative ego is saying that to try and scare you because you’ve scared it. Don’t you understand that’s how it works? If you scare the negative ego, it will scare you back by making you believe—remember what we said about negative ego reinforcing negative beliefs—yes. So when you scare the negative ego by making it think you’re going to abandon it, it will scare you into seeing a future that is one to avoid so you won’t go away. It’s covering the reality you could have with a smokescreen and illusion of a reality you don’t want so you won’t move in that direction because it doesn’t want you to go because you’ve let it think you’re abandoning it because you’re not treating it with enough respect.
QUESTION 5: Second-Guessing Internal Dialogues
Good afternoon, Bashar, and are you good day. Long time no speak. From my point of view, I do believe it’s been 17 years since we spoke. Thank you for being—oh, a mere few orbits around your sun.
Friend, I’d like to discuss a little bit further the ego issue regarding second-guessing internal dialogues with spirit and the like. Now, over the years we discussed when we first met, guides and the like, and certain things, how as times progressed these communications do occur. But at some of the times, my self—part of myself—kicks in as “it’s not happening, it’s not a reality, you’re fantasizing, you’re making it up, you’re playing with yourself.” So, probably should have worded that better. But with regards to that, how can you be—and I know 100% certain is an objective phrase—but how can you be certain that the dialogues you are having internally aren’t just made up? For example…
Yes, about 12 months ago, laying in bed with my partner, etc., and I put out some thoughts to say hello, and it was either you or you in aspect that dialogued with me. And it wasn’t a dialogue, it was a dissertation with four topics. And I remember the last comment, “You will remember this,” yes. So I’m articulating that back to you now to establish whether that was you as an individual or whether that was you an aspect through my own consciousness dialoguing with?
It was your own higher self tapping into our frequency and delivering the information in our flavor.
Asker: Okay. So in that then, how can I encourage those interactions—not needing them to happen, so letting go of the requirement for them to happen?
Absolutely. All expectation needs to be let go of so that you can simply allow what needs to be there to be there. Okay. Paradoxically, by needing something to happen, you fill the space in which the thing can actually occur, and thus there’s no room for it to occur. Okay. You fill that space with the need for it to happen. No longer having the need for it to happen empties the space, and what needs to happen will happen.
Asker: So would that then be—I’ve been also putting out requests to the Essassani, as it were, to interact with you in a dream state. Yes. I’m still waiting for the circumstances for that to drop. Would that be sort of the similar thing?
Actually, what you’re waiting to do is remember that it’s already happened. Okay.
Asker: Then I choose to—I’d like to remember that it’s occurred. Because then—go ahead. Well, I’m uncertain of how to access that memory in this now.
Don’t need to. I’ve—that’s sort of going in a circle for me, and I’m uncertain how to address that.
Asker: If you’re saying the—why is it so important for you to access that memory? That’s another way of asking you why you need it so much.
Okay. Because the only other time that we’ve interacted on that level was a hoot and I enjoyed it. A hoot and I enjoyed it. Well, I could use—how that—but I’m all right. But does that mean that other things in your life are not as much of a hoot?
Well said. Well said. Um, perhaps when you add more hooting to your own life, you will increase your vibration to the level on which more hooting will take place.
Asker: Indeed, indeed. All right. I just wanted to cover off on those two issues regarding the internal dialogues and how to be able to be certain within yourself that—
Well, again, the first step is not to care one way or another whether you have to be so certain. The idea again is to focus on the things that give you joy and just get on about the business of living your life to the best of your capacity in acting on the things that give you passion, and trusting that whatever else you need to know you will know, and whatever other experiences you need to have you will have. Remember, you’ve made appointments. You’ve made agreements to have certain things happen in certain timing. And the only way you can miss those appointments is by worrying that you will miss those appointments.
Old Souls and Children
Asker: We actually can learn so much just by being and paying attention to what’s going on around us because nature, our physical nature itself, is a tremendous teacher. Yes. And I think that’s why you bring a lot of analogies in our physical lives—same analogy as a scuba diver, for example.
Yes. And when you were talking about our ego and our higher self having a conversation, it came to me evident that we actually do the same thing with our children, yes, on a daily basis. Yes. We’re creating this bond and this trust that it all comes with love, and we just have to negotiate and create this kind of a trust relationship with our children. And once they do that, basically I’m looking at my children right now like my—in that analogy, basically once my children start to trust me enough, we create the bond and the—that’s where—
Well, understand that your children actually already trust you implicitly. The idea is that they trusted you enough to be fed whatever it is you telepathically fed them about what you believe to be true. So the idea is to allow yourself and your duty as a parent to be clear that the idea that you love them is already clear, but the ideas of how you express the concept of love may need to be brought into alignment. I’m not saying this is the case, I’m just talking generalities.
The idea is that children are completely implicitly trusting of the parent, and they receive whatever they receive from the parent as if it were the perfect symbol or representation of the parent’s love. Now if the parent is sending negative ego belief systems down that avenue toward the child, then the child will start to interpret negative belief system ego structures as a symbol of love, and that will be the only symbol the child will know and the only symbol the child will themselves be able to express in life until they get a handle on how to bring that back into alignment with symbols that are more positively representative of the underlying current of unconditional love that is always there.
Asker: There’s a definition that we talk about a lot, and you were talking about children being older souls that are coming here as teachers. Yes. Especially now in this day and age, many of the children being born on your planet and that have been being born now for about the last 20 years or so are in a sense not only a new generation, they are actually a different species. And it is representative of souls that have a lot of experience, many of them that are cross-connecting to many different experiences in many different parallel realities. And by the genetic alteration that is happening within them as they restructure their embryonic bodies, they are creating a genetic structure that will give rise to a personality structure that will not forget as much of who they are as beings, as whole beings, as spirits.
Asker: My question was—I’m trying to define for myself—is there such a thing as old soul if we are eternal beings?
Well, it’s a euphemism. Old in this context means they have a certain kind of experience they are bringing to the reality they are interacting with. It’s not really a measure of time. It’s a measure of the degree of certain kinds of experiences and knowledge they are bringing to share with any particular reality they might be interacting with. So they are more experienced in the sense in this particular reality than yes, some others. So they are more experienced in the kind of knowledge required by this particular reality in order to advance. That’s what old soul means. It’s not really a measure of time in the same way that we know many humans sometimes misinterpret the phrase “light-year” and think it’s a measurement of time when in fact it’s a measurement of distance.
Do You Have an Ego?
Bashar, we have a question from one of our listeners. All right. This one is: Bashar, do you have an ego?
We have a sufficient amount of ego to keep us focused in physical reality to whatever degree we wish to be focused in it. But again, we remind you, ego by itself is not a negative term. It’s just a focusing mechanism. We do not, however, experience the idea of the negative ego.
Asker: Do you experience the full range of emotions as humans do?
We do not experience what you would call the emotions of fear, sadness. We do not experience that. Anger. We do not experience that. Frustration. We do not experience that.
Asker: Go on, what else you got?
Elation. Absolutely.
Asker: Do you give yourself a pat on the back when you do a good job?
The enjoyment of doing the job is enough because it is far more satisfying than any pat on the back could ever be. And we do not need to pat ourselves on the back because we know creation has our back.
Asker: So when we have a more balanced ego structure, yes, how would a human experience themselves?
As a joyful, playful child just experiencing themselves rather than thinking about themselves experiencing it.
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